I can't respond to a broad brush charge like that. Please enumerate
these stances.
I questioned whether to post that even as I did, in part because I
don't have the interest in backing it up with specifics, and in part
because even if I did, it would simply lead to an argument with no
point. It would be he said/she said, literally. It's simply an
impression I've gotten. It wasn't so much intended as an attack on
you, but it's hard to say something like that without coming across
that way. It's more like, hey, Roedy, maybe you could consider going
a little easier on people?
[snip]
Thomas did not originally intended to offend, and his continued use
of the insult is definitely intended to offend. It is a **** you. I
was not asking much, just that he stop comparing all my posts to
worthless disgusting slime.
If he did that to random strangers on the street, he would have a
nose beaten to a pulp by now.
Okay, see, this is where I completely disagree with you. Personally,
I find your attribution line, or more accurately, its implied
disregard for quoting accurately, to be extremely irritating; whereas
Thomas' attribution line slips under my radar and wouldn't even have
have been noticed by me if you didn't keep bringing it up. Your
dislike for accurately quoting a person is considered a Big Deal in
netiquette; people in most newsgroups apologize for misattributions.
Whereas silly attribution lines are pretty common, and almost
universally ignored. To my mind, *your* attribution is the one that
offends and is a "**** you," because it says that you have so little
respect for us that you don't even care to get our names right. But
note that I've never gone on a campaign to get you to change it,
although I have commented on it snidely a few times. I never
suggested you should have your nose punched in because of it.
We are in usenet, which has different etiquette than the street. He's
not really comparing all your posts to worthless slime, as the content
of his responses doesn't in any way suggest that he feels your posts
are worthless. It's a silly attribution, and it's not harming anyone,
and you're freaking out about it, and I find your response, as I said
earlier, baffling. I don't know if he's only using that attribution
line for you, now, to tweak you, but I'm dead certain it started out
as a generic attribution line for anyone.
I can't even think of anything analogous to an attribution line "in
real life", so I can't follow that analogy.
I am quite ill with HIV. I feel all the time as though I had just
completed a marathon, even after a 12 hour sleep. My muscles are
like rubber. I am less resistant than usual to the slings of
Internet discussion. I have to withdraw from the people that I am
getting in fights with. I have very little energy each day and it is
maddening when it gets frittered in bickering.
At the same time, I figure I owe people an explanation why am
cutting them off.
I guess my feeling is that there's no need to fight; no need at all.
When I get tired of a discussion, I just stop posting, or maybe post to
say, "I'm not interested in continuing this discussion, as it's not
going anywhere." I don't resort to calling people names (ie
whippersnapper; if Oliver is a whippersnapper, I'm not far off, either,
having never bothered to write an interpreter, whatever that has to do
with anything. And my only exposure to assembler was a truly awful
teacher for one class in college). I feel like sometimes you can be
quite rude to people, without any justifiable grounds. But frankly,
even when rudeness is justified, it's still better to take the high
ground. I find that people respect that.
There seem so be something in the air. Congress and the Senate too
are at each other's throats.
Perhaps.
I can understand being ill and having a short temper because of it. I
really can, and if I could make you feel better, I would in a
heartbeat. Please know that. I admire your desire to make a
difference in the world by helping others. And we all sometimes say
grumpy things, or things that sound grumpy or uncharitable, in text.
It's the nature of the beast. I just firmly believe that "you catch
more flies with honey," and I think that when you establish a posting
history that is speckled with grumpiness, you're working at cross
purposes to your goal. People who would otherwise learn from you will
cut you off.
Anyway, I don't want to be hurtful to you, and I don't really think
continuing this discussion would be productive. Either you will
recognize what you are doing and put effort towards changing it, or you
will not recognize it and simply be offended or baffled. And of course
there's a chance that I am the only person who sees this trend, that
it's all in my imagination, etc. That's possible, too.
I wish you well and I hope that you will feel at least a little bit
better in the near future.