Giving an application a window icon in a sensible way

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Twisted

Oliver said:
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I'm sorry. I don't see an email address or a toll-free phone number
here. Please hang up and try your call again.
 
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blmblm

This *thread* began with me posting a question. The *hostility* didn't
begin with me doing anything. I did not throw the first punch.

Who said anything about hostility? The thread began with you
posting a question. Where did I say anything else? I did mention
"ensuing furor" .... Well. I suppose a person could interpret
that to mean that I thought the furor was caused by the question
rather than simply coming after it in the same thread. That's not
what I meant. I'm sorry if you interpreted it that way.
I don't see how any thread other than this one is at all germane here.

Then why did you bring it up? Please clarify the rule you have in
mind here. Off-topic digressions are acceptable, but replies to them
are not?
Frankly, what I do elsewhere on the 'net is none of your fucking
business.

Well, I don't agree with that -- it's all public -- but for the
record I will say that my reply was based not on a search of Google's
archives for all posts made by you under any of the identities you've
used here but on my recollections of the discussion in comp.text.tex,
a group I also follow.
I was simply using it as an example for a newsgroup where attitudes
towards n00bs (and blatant attempts to sell them stuff) were worse than
here. Outside of that narrow scope, it is not material to this
discussion.

And I was disagreeing with you on exactly this point. (Okay, I didn't
say anything about the "blatant attempts to sell them stuff", but
I think that's a misleading or inaccurate characterization as well.)
Which, by the way, is over.

Maybe I *should* apologize to the rest of the group for an attempt
to, um, "defend the honor"? of the regulars in comp.text.tex.
Anyone who's really curious will check the group out for him/herself.
 
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Joe Attardi

It's the dragging of irrelevant, inflammatory stuff into the present
discussion that I object to, not the googling in and of itself.
Even though it will do no good I'm sure, let's try this again:

IT IS RELEVANT.
It shows that, no matter what the topic, you seem to enjoy turning
threads into arguments pretty much every time. Why is that relevant?
Because it demonstrates that we are all wasting our time, because you
are more interested in a fight than any kind of discussion.
You've just proven my point, moron! The *only* thing you used this
stuff for was to try to publicly insult me some more, rather than for
any reason I could imagine being justified.
I didn't insult you, moron! I cited your behavior in other threads that
shows that you are nothing but an argumentative child.
You have way overstepped the fucking bounds,
asshole, and you have crossed the goddam line. And I'm calling you on it!
Aw, I think he's mad.
[presumes to speak for everybody]
Presumes? Have you READ everyone else's posts in this thread?
Go **** yourself, Joe Attacki.
You spelled my last name wrong actually, it's Attardi.
Ohh, I get it! It's a clever witticism because my last name starts with
'Atta' like the word 'Attack'! Ha ha ha ha, that's a good one!
Oh wait, no it's not. You are a huge dumbass.

Twisted, you'll be glad to know that I'm wasting no more time on you
after this post.

You are nothing but a sociopath and a troll. I realize that now. Your
behavior on other discussion threads solidifies your reputation as a
troll.
You twist everybody's words to suit your purposes, to give you
ammunition to lash out at everybody here.

However, while you are a troll, you are also entertaining. I love your
paranoia about your Google Groups account and your continued insistence
that people are engineering your account being blocked. This is
laughable, just like most of everything else you have claimed here.

Maybe you chose to be a troll on purpose, or maybe you became a troll
because you are a dim-witted, lying, self-important fool and it's the
only way you can compensate.
 
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Twisted

RedGrittyBrick wrote:
[...]
You can get Eclipse to insert stuff by clicking the light bulb in the
left margin. Either Alt+Space (Content Assist) or Ctrl+1 (Quick Fix) can
be useful too. Use Ctrl+O to get the imports done for you. Surely you
already know all this?

Much of it.
How long have you been using eclipse?

Time actually clocked using it might be a week or two. Not much IOW.
No, you talked about "ten billion". I'm glad to see the hyperbole
reduced but I still think you're exaggerating by a couple of orders of
magnitude. I do apply "such usage" and I don't have anything like that
many test classes, even though I've deleted none.

Whatever. Still seems like overkill.
A couple of observations:
1. Whilst you are reading this newsgroup, you are not deep into your
project. Context switching to Eclipse between newsgroup postings isn't
much of a disruption to me.

To you.
I made a general comment, you are talking about a specific situation.
I'm saying that my experience is that the general approach is often (but
not always) useful. You *seem* to be saying that making small test apps
is never useful.

I'm saying that I think it's overkill in many of the situations where
people keep recommending it, and that it seems rather involved relative
to the alternatives.
The subject-line of this thread can be demonstrated in a few tens of
lines of code. So I believe that at least half of your recent questions
could have been handled that way.

I don't see how, unless you're suggesting either that I should have
just sat down and somehow had the code I didn't know magically pour
forth from my fingers despite my not knowing it or that someone helping
me should have posted such code for me to copy and adapt.
That is a good thing! I always learn something to my benefit. I gain,
the posters expend the effort. It's a bargain and I thank them for it.

Did you completely miss the bit about how it would gratuitously expose
me to gratuitous attacks? I have enough problems now as it is without
handing some of the other people in this thread ammunition on a silver
platter! (Problem being it doesn't matter if the code is squeaky clean;
the personalities in question will still invent something "wrong" with
it and launch a fusillade, when they might, hope-hope-hope, post one
fewer post attacking me that day otherwise rather than the same number
but with one picking on me for something different.)
Your "attempts to pry" are other people's "attempts to help you". I'm
not much surprised your negative reaction isn't well received.

My perceptions are colored by my experiences here so far.
Understandably so.

Also, I'm mainly talking about things like:

Q: How do I do X?
A: Why do you want to do X?

Who's asking, Sigmund Fricking Freud? This isn't a psychoanalysis. Just
tell me how to do X please and never you mind why. :p

Honestly, I don't get responses like that. They seem to imply that the
responder thinks any use of X is automatically suspect and the poster
therefore goes on a "moron watch list" full of false positives, not
unlike the "terrorist watch list" and with slightly milder
consequences, like having their every step questioned, nitpicked, and
criticized, well beyond the scope of what they were asking for help
with.

If X is deprecated API, I can see such a reaction, but otherwise? :p

Please explain; I'm curious to hear what you think about this,
including about the underlying motives and states of mind.

It won't mean that such questions won't put me on the defensive,
though. Whoever else is watching will read the question, read between
the lines, and begin to suspect that maybe I'm a moron, and it will be
up to me to set the record straight on that score lest they actually
start thinking it's true.
If Eclipse supported RCS I'd be using it. I miss Vim and RCS! Setting up
a CVS repository is something I'll probably get around to one day.

Isn't RCS evil and proprietary and unfree and things like that?

Whoa *does double take*

You miss ... vim?

I don't miss the days of having to toggle in the OS and your own code
from scratch every run, and I don't miss the more recent days of having
to fumble around in the dark probing the immediate environment by
typing instructions to a mentally-deficient prompt of some kind instead
of being able to see what the heck I was doing at a glance and easily
find stuff, orient myself, and whatnot. GUIs were like finally finding
the light switch after years of fumbling around with a flashlight all
the time. And now you're saying you prefer clunky,
ten-zillion-things-to-memorize flashlight-fumbling interfaces to a
modern text editor you can just type into and use in a natural way? I
suppose you also prefer nostalgic cars you need to actually crank up to
start, or the quaintness of churning butter or hand-wringing laundry
too. ;)
Halleluya!

Let it be known that this is in no way to be taken as any kind of
admission, whether of wrongdoing or of incompetence or of whatever
else; let the record show that I have my own reasons entirely
unconnected with any kind of peer-pressure or any of the specific
things mentioned here earlier. It is because I don't like compiler
warnings, a reason that nobody ever suggested. :)
When I use a copy of Eclipse without the core Java documentation
installed, and press Shift+F2 with the cursor over PriorityQueue, I
don't get an F2 window, I get a dialog box that says "The documentation
location for 'PriorityQueue<E>' has not been configured. For elements
from libraries specify the Javadoc location URL on the properties page
of the parent JAR ('rt.jar')".

I got something like this but it was looking for the project
documentation, not the JRE documentation.

I'll fiddle with it some more and see if I can get it working, of
course. When I have time.
I think you said you only trust wikipedia and sun.com, which is a shame
since http://javadocs.org/PriorityQueue is also very handy (substitute
any JRE class for PriorityQueue.)

What is that, a mirror of Sun's copy? What's the advantage -- speed or
reliability, or just a backup? I have my own local copy of the API docs
anyway.

[suggestion of ill mental health directed at me]

Aww, and we were doing so well, too!
 
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nebulous99

(e-mail address removed) wrote:

[unintelligible stuff snipped]
Nonsense, Followups were set by PofN

By you, in other words.

[Stupid and insulting shit deleted, none of which is true]
Give what up? Poking trolls with blunt sticks?

Trying to disrupt my access to Usenet, fucktard. By the way, trolls are
mythical beings that don't actually exist, moron.

[snip some more content-free blather]

Hrm, there's nothing left. What declarative content your post contained
was laughable. Calling it "sophomoric" would have been a compliment;
it's at the level of 5-year-old playground trash-talking. I've heard
more intelligent hip-hop lyrics!

P.S. Hrm, apparently you do have less overt ways to trick Google into
counting my followups multiply, since following up to your last one
triggered that fucking broken and gamable limit again. Grrr! I don't
care how you are doing it -- stop. Or else.

(Or do you expect me to believe it's coincidence that it tripped
exactly when answering *your* post?)
 
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nebulous99

Believe me, I do not have any reason to sneak any insult via the back
door. I have already been very clear on my opinion of your attitude on
this group.

Sure you do. The idea being that the insult is undetected by me, stands
unchallenged, and then you win.

Sorry, no can do. You have to get up pretty early in the morning to
sneak anything past *me*.
This is another example of your type of fallacy, you do not even
entertain the possibility that the rule is not flawless and you have
tripped it because you post bursts of 6-10 very long posts. I agree
with you 100%, the rule has triggered when it should not, but as you
have no idea on what the rule is, you have no reason to accuse anyone
of abusing the service.

Stop accusing me of fallacy or else.

The rule is emphatically not flawless -- it is way too easy to game it
to try to shut up someone you're arguing with.

The length of my posts is irrelevant. Posting in bursts is normal and
therefore also irrelevant.

Unless you have any more knowledge of Google's algorithm than I do,
you're not qualified to make blanket claims about it. Certainly not to
claim that you *must* be right and that I *must* be wrong, not without
any evidence whatsoever with which to settle it!
B) a paranoid state of mind. Take your pick.

Since I am, in fact, under goddamn attack I hardly think it is
"paranoia" to *think* I am! (If you think I'm *not*, then read any five
random posts of this thread not by me and then *re*think whether I am
under attack.)
Oh I dont know... how about...SOME, of any kind.

Talk about being either blind or stupid.

[Insults deleted.]
Idiot.

[Insulting crap targeted at discrediting my IQ deleted.]

Deleted because it was [more insulting crap deleted.]

You are getting repetitive. A sure sign you should shut up now.
I am actually very serious (although, as you rightly say, not
qualified, which is why I suggest professional consultation) when I
question your mental state.

I'm sure you meant your egregious insult *quite* sincerely. I also
don't give a shit. a) It's false, b) Insulting people is rude, and c)
You're an asshole!

[More elaborate insulting paragraph snipped.]

[Nothing left.]

[The end.]
 
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nebulous99

Who said anything about hostility? The thread began with you
posting a question. Where did I say anything else? I did mention
"ensuing furor" ....

I didn't say anything about *you* being hostile. What happened,
roughly, was this:

You said something about the sad state of this thread now, and implied
that it was somehow my fault.

I pointed out that I didn't throw the first punch.

This was misinterpreted as suggesting I didn't make the first post.

I differentiated between "the first post" and "the first punch".

End of story. I hope.
Then why did you bring it up? Please clarify the rule you have in
mind here. Off-topic digressions are acceptable, but replies to them
are not?

I didn't. I mentioned c.t.t but at no time did I mention (or invite
reference to) any specific thread therein. Somebody else mentioned a
specific thread. It is that that I considered to be stepping outside
the bounds.
Well, I don't agree with that -- it's all public

Another reason to respect the comparmentalization people desire and
also to never insult someone here.
record I will say that my reply was based not on a search of Google's
archives for all posts made by you under any of the identities you've
used here but on my recollections of the discussion in comp.text.tex,
a group I also follow.

Oh, great.
And I was disagreeing with you on exactly this point.

How so? If you're suggesting that what I post outside c.j.l.p is
relevant here, then a hearty **** you! The only possible reason (as I
detailed elsewhere) to drag that kind of thing into any discussion is
for the purpose of twisting it in some way and then launching
ad-hominem attacks against your opponent in the debate, in lieu of such
mature and constructive things as either a) arguing the thing being
debated itself instead of who's an idiot and who is this that or the
other unpleasant comparison or b) leaving well enough alone.

If you're suggesting that newbies don't get bum advice there, then you
obviously haven't been following the group as well as you think you
were. The specific anecdote about the n00b getting some code to paste
in that was incomplete and made their problem worse, for example, is
completely true and not unrepresentative of things I observed.
(Okay, I didn't
say anything about the "blatant attempts to sell them stuff", but
I think that's a misleading or inaccurate characterization as well.)

It isn't. Every other post there seemed to make reference to one of a
few books whose content is not available in any sort of free version,
with the implication that they are to be considered required reading.

If that were actually true it would mean that TeX needed to be dropped
from a load of linux distros that consider themselves pure open source,
since if it's "required" to pay money for a copyrighted
somethingorother (book, disc of data, or whatever) to make use of some
software then that software does not seem to qualify as free software.

Regardless, it's hands reaching for my wallet in a space where I
consider it unwelcome and so, I'm given to understand, do many others.
(Namely, usenet.)
Maybe I *should* apologize to the rest of the group for an attempt
to, um, "defend the honor"? of the regulars in comp.text.tex.

I don't doubt that there are people there that are genuinely helpful
and, in addition, don't mistakenly give out half-baked advice.

OTOH, my personal observation is that there are a larger number of
people giving out half-baked advice (mistakenly or with whatever
motives) and peddling commercial products there than here.

And if you dispute that, it's tantamount to accusing me of being unable
to count to ten competently, since counting is basically all I needed
to do to arrive at my observation. And of course I'd have to take that
as a mortal insult.
 
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nebulous99

Joe said:
Even though it will do no good I'm sure, let's try this again:

IT IS RELEVANT.

THE TOPIC IS GIVING AN APPLICATION A WINDOW ICON. THE NEWSGROUP IS
ABOUT JAVA PROGRAMMING. THEREFORE YOU ARE WRONG.
It shows that, no matter what the topic, you seem to enjoy turning
threads into arguments pretty much every time.

It does not. It shows that in every newsgroup there are people that do
enjoy turning threads into arguments, and that unlike some I will not
quickly capitulate and then let them continue poison the minds of
everyone else present against me with impunity.
Because it demonstrates that we are all wasting our time, because you
are more interested in a fight than any kind of discussion.

Yes, we are all wasting our time, but it is because *you* are more
interested in a fight than in any kind of discussion. If you stopped
posting I'd stop replying in my own defense and that would be that. Why
do you continue? If it's such a waste of your time? Unlike me, you
could just stop and not be effectively admitting to any kind of guilt,
error, or foolishness by doing so.

So why don't you?

Hmm?
I didn't insult you, moron!

You just insulted me again. Moron.
I cited your behavior in other threads that shows that you are nothing but an
argumentative child.

That *is* an insult! Moron!
Aw, I think he's mad.

I'm a fucking saint to have kept my temper as long as I bloody have,
you fucking asshole. I doubt many people would have lasted half as long
when forced to keep blocking the attacks of a mule-headed fuckwit like
you for several whole DAYS. In fact I'd like to see YOU try, with
someone harassing YOU this way, without either capitulating or blowing
up in a much shorter span of time!
Have you READ everyone else's posts in this thread?

Yes, unlike some people here who seem to keep not reading large chunks
of my reasoning, and then continue to spout the same nonsense I'd just
wasted a load of time debunking, with the same exact logical mistakes
or false premises and everything.

[Further insults deleted.]
Twisted, you'll be glad to know that I'm wasting no more time on you
after this post.

Hallelujah!

[Yet another batch of insults deleted.]

Just because you repeat it six zillion times doesn't make it true,
jerkwad.

[Calls me a liar among other things, with (sigh, so predictable)
another innuendo about my mental health]

This is getting old (and ridiculous). Feel free to shut up now, liar.

Oh. You did. There's nothing left.
 
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Joe Attardi

Joe Retardi wrote:
I'm sorry, I had to respond to this. Retardi? Are you kidding me? I was
called that in first grade. That speaks volumes about your maturity
level, I guess.

I notice you called me a liar. What exactly did I lie about?
 
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wesley.hall

Sure you do. The idea being that the insult is undetected by me, stands
unchallenged, and then you win.

Please... insult me, I will leave it unchallenged, then you 'win'.
Perhaps then this thread's morbid hold on me with be released and I can
go back to doing more important things. Thanks.
 
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Oliver Wong

Twisted said:
Not *everything* though.

If ten thousand links, unfamiliar tools or file types, or whatever get
mentioned in a day, I clearly don't have time to research more than a
fraction of them. The rest I must judge by their covers, so to speak,
in deciding what to do with them (if anything; usually this means doing
nothing with them).

Two rebuttals:

(1) If it were ten thousand links, tools and file types, then yes I'd
probably be overwhelmed too. If it were more like 50, then I can dedicate a
30 seconds google search to each, and it'd take less than half an hour to
get a basic understand of each of them.

(2) As an alternative to judging them by their cover, you could withhold
judgment until the next day, week, or month, after which point you WILL have
spent that 30 seconds doing the google search and learning enough to avoid
making arbitrary guesses about the nature of the link/tool/file-type in
question.

For example, rather than saying "There's no way a search for 'ant' could
return any information on the Ant tool", you could spend literally 7 seconds
(I timed myself) entering "ant" into google, and reading the summary that
comes up: "Apache Ant - Welcome: Pure Java build tool, simpler and easier to
use than GNU Make." to confirm that, yes, they are talking about the build
tool, and not the insect.

In contrast, it takes me longer than 7 seconds to type "There's no way a
search for 'ant' could return any information on the Ant tool" (it took 9
seconds). So if your concern is optimal allocation of your time, you'd do a
lot better to investigate the links/tools/file-types presented to you, than
posting on the newsgroup about how you don't know anything about these
links/tools/file-types.

- Oliver
 
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Oliver Wong

Twisted said:
Unfamiliar to me; winamp for example has registered all kinds of
obscure file extensions I've otherwise never heard of. If I see one of
those later, I can only go by what I know to decide whether to not
bother trying to click on it; to go by what winamp knows would require
clicking on it, and doing so to decide whether to click on it is
obviously moronic.

Assuming you're using Windows (the hint was the mention of WinAmp), you
can right click on a file and choose "properties" to see a window which will
display what the OS thinks the type of the file is, as well as what program
will open it. For example, when I do this on a PDF file, it gives me "Type
of file: Adobe Acrobat 7.0 Document" and "Opens with: Adobe Reader 7.0".

If that's too slow for you, you can also right click on the file, and
highlight the "Open With..." menu, in which case a pop-up submenu will
appear, listing the programs known to be able to open this file. In my case,
it shows "Adobe Reader 7.0" and "Firefox".

- Oliver
 
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Oliver Wong

Twisted said:
I'm sorry. I don't see an email address or a toll-free phone number
here. Please hang up and try your call again.

I guess you're screwed then. =P

- Oliver
 
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Daniel Pitts

Daniel said:
Two things.
[Insult #1 deleted. NOTE: It was false.]
[Insult #2 deleted. NOTE: It was untrue.]

No remaining content. Disconnecting.

Wow, you actually spent some effort to reply to me :)

Have you tried using ClassLoader.getResource() yet?
 
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Oliver Wong

Twisted said:
The things you said you wouldn't call "dishonesty". Which apparently
include:
* Acquiescing to a hostile argument you don't actually believe is
correct.
* Leaving out information you know to be relevant.

I'd rather see the exact words I wrote. No offence, but I find you tend
to misread things I write. So hearing your version of what I said is like
playing a game of broken telephone.

[...]
Unfortunately, what actually happened more closely resembles the same
guy remaining and interjecting the "idiot" comment at frequent
intervals, every time necessitating a similar response.

And also, you weren't giving a lecture, but asking a question. Yeah,
it's different, but the fact that you can say "Ok" and go on with your life,
without having your life become worse off is the same.

If the other scientists wanted to hear Einstein's lecture, after a
repeated interjection of "idiot", the entire crowd would get upset and ask
the person to leave. If the other scientists agreed with this person that
Einstein was an idiot, and didn't want to hear the rest of the lecture, then
Einstein would be wasting his time giving the rest of it, and should just
pack up and leave, heading towards the next conference, giving the next
lecture there.

I forget why I told you this fictional story, though. =P I never
realized how much I depended on being able to check the parent and
grandparents of a post in a thread until now that it's unavailable to me.
In *every* game, walking away constitutes a forfeit.

What if the game was seeing who could walk away the fastest?
I'm not Superman.

Learn to become him. Obviously, this is probably impossible in the
context of actual warfare and firearms, but it's certainly possible in
usenet forums. Learn to become invulnerable to insults slung your way.
Now consider these scenarios:

1:
Someone insults you.
You let it stand unchallenged.
Everyone else believes it.
Now everyone calls you names or, at best, ignores you, and this kind of
cramps your lifestyle.
Now you're unhappy.

2:
Someone insults you.
You explain why the content of the insult is incorrect.
Everyone else's beliefs fluctuate for a bit, but settle roughly where
they originally where, seeing as they've now heard arguments in both
directions whose effects cancel out.
Now everyone continues to behave in the manner to which you are
accustomed.
Now you're no more unhappy than before.

According to your own scoring, 2 is better. (And 2 repeated is better
than 2 a few times and then 1, with the attendant negative
consequences.)

Right, but you forgot about secret strategy 3.

3:
Someone insults you.
You ignore it.
Everyone else ignores it.
Your life remains as happy as ever.

The benefits of 3 over 2 is that you don't even get that temporary dip
where you happiness falls for a short while and comes back up.
You seem to be implying that you can control what you feel, rather than
it being the result of your circumstances and only controllable to the
extent that you can control your circumstances.

Yes. And I now recall that a lot of people claim that they are unable to
do this. I think I may have a slight advantage here because I have
high-functioning austism, so I don't seem to go through emotions the same
way other people do. However, it certainly is doable by so called
"neuro-typical" people. Buddhism, for example, is all about learning to
control your emotions, and I'm sure a lot of Buddhist monks are
non-autistic.
So for instance
everyone could start hating (or just avoiding) you and you could by
force of will continue to be happy anyway.

Perhaps in theory, but in practice, unless you do something really bad
(e.g. slaughter Jewish people), it's very unlikely that *everybody* will
hate you. So this problem very rarely comes up.
Tell me, sir, what drugs are you on? Perhaps I should try them. :p

See below...
Then again, I'm not sure I like the idea of how I feel being completely
unrelated to my circumstances. Taking happy pills for life so the
shoddy miserable slummy conditions of your environment seem to be
paradise is a cop-out at best, and I would find it a *boring* life
regardless. (I'm assuming here that the drug is expensive or illegal
enough to result in shitty real-world conditions, such as a slum or a
cell of either the barred or padded variety, or else the shitty
conditions result from taking no actions to better your circumstances,
which you by hypothesis no longer care about because of the drugs.)

Note that the above argument remains unchanged if we replace "drugs"
with "biofeedback", "sheer bloody-mindedness", "meditation", "prayer",
"really frequent masturbation", or any other phony source of feel-good.

I claim that meditation, prayer, or really frequent masturbation, will
not result in shitty real-world conditions, such as a slum or a cell. As for
the drugs I take, I suppose you could call it a combination of those three
things, though I don't "actively" meditate or pray in the sense of actually
setting out a time to be in a quiet location alone with my thoughts. I get
plenty of opportunities to just let my mind wander (which is basically what
meditation is) on the subway on the way to work or going back home.

If you want to be in this happy state, but don't want your life to go to
shit, take responsibility for something. Depending on your age, join a Big
Brothers or Big Sister organization, or raise a pet, or if that's too big of
a commitment jump, take care of a plant. Because you're responsible for some
other form of life, you won't allow your own life to go to hell, but you'll
still have all opportunities to be happy as you did previously.
I used to think this way. Then I discovered that everybody falls into
the category described.

I had a fairly close friend that grew distant, and then hostile,
because of unfounded rumors circulating on the Internet. This was a
decade and a half ago or so. (Yes, I had net access back then.) That
taught me my lesson -- whatever the theory about how nobody who's that
easily swayed is worth your time, the practise is that either they are,
or nobody in the world is worth your time (and by extension you're an
arrogant SOB, not to mention a lonely one).

This was a friend I did not consider to be especially gullible. The
effect this had was to make it take longer before their behavior
changed because of what some person on the net was saying about me,
rather than to prevent their behavior changing.

It sounds like this particular incident had a very dramatic effect on
your outlook on life. In my experience, relatively few people fall into this
category. For me, the vast majority of people fall into the "Don't care"
category listed below. If I'm reading through a newsgroup, and I see a
message written by "Jack" and it says "Jill is an idiot", I'll notice that I
have no idea who Jack is. I have no idea who Jill is. And frankly, I don't
really care what Jack thinks of Jill. So this message will not leave a very
lasting impress on me, except perhaps that Jack tends to post off-topic
messages.

I'm believe that most other people on usenet feel this way too, and from
my experience so far, it seems that this belief is correct.

Now as to how this relates back to your situation, I suspect that the
vast majority of readers here won't remember you as (and I'm going to assume
you're male for the moment) "Twisted... he's that guy who made that thread
that blew up into over 300 posts, right?", as opposed to "Twisted... he's
that guy who valiantly defended himself against every attack of his
character. Every one of his posts was logically impeccable, and thus all
accusations against him were unfounded. Obviously, he's no idiot."

Notice here that what (I hypothesize that) they remember about you has
very little to do with the actual content of the messages themselves;
rather, they'll only remember the size of the thread as a whole. As further
evidence of this, notice how you need to constantly repeat yourself to
newcomers to the thread, who have obviously not bothered to read your other
messages.

I think most people here will also fall into the "Don't care" category.
I suspect what typically happens is that they'll read 3 or 4 messages to
establish some minimal context, with the last message being an unanswered
leaf. They'll notice a(n implied) request for more information, and they'll
chime in if they know the answer, but they really don't know, or care to
know, what was said in the 290 other messages in this thread.

I was afraid of that. :p

How do I convince people not to fantasize all kinds of weird crap and
then treat it as factual? For example, if I say "not now", not to
fantasize that I really meant "not ever" and then behave as if I
actually said "not ever" (which seems to have actually occurred here
recently).

In general, you can't. There's no sure-fire way to prevent
misunderstandings in human communication.
But it's happening an awful lot, even where I'm not in the least
unclear in my language. And it's causing nasty side effects.

"Misunderstandings happen" is a cop-out, not a constructive suggestion
or even a genuine explanation. :p

A genuine explanation would probably be extremely complex, dipping into
psychology, group psychology, linguistics, etc. and beyond my abilities to
derive and provide. As for a constructive suggestion, I wasn't aware that
you were asking for one, but now that you did ask for one explicitly above,
I'm affraid I'm going to have to say I have no suggestion for avoiding these
misunderstandings, other than the ones you don't seem to approve of already.
(i.e. the one which you call lying or being dishonest).
If they start biting the other participants' knees it becomes a
problem.

Is it against the rules to bite the knees of other participants in
Basketball? If not, then I suppose that's a valid basketball strategy for
pygmies to use. If not, then I suppose that if the pygmies are going to
cheat anyway, there's nothing we can really do to enforce them to obey the
rules. Certainly, banning them from rec.games.basketball will not stop them
from biting people's knees.
Here the logic-deficient people are reading nonsense into
everything, then insulting people (me anyway; I'm not following any
threads besides the few I've posted to as the group's so high volume),
and then failing to even parse the arguments as to a) why the insults
are inaccurate and b) why they should stop, resulting in them
continuing.

So now that you see from (b) that people do not nescessarily behave the
way you think they should behave, maybe it's time for you to revise your
strategy... or better yet, revise the rules of the game you're playing in
such a way so that you end up winning with less risk or effort.

- Oliver
 
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Oliver Wong

The only possible reason (as I
detailed elsewhere) to drag that kind of thing into any discussion is
for the purpose of twisting it in some way and then launching
ad-hominem attacks against your opponent in the debate, in lieu of such
mature and constructive things as either a) arguing the thing being
debated itself instead of who's an idiot and who is this that or the
other unpleasant comparison or b) leaving well enough alone.

Notice though that it's not ad-hominem if the topic of debate is one of
the debaters themselves.

For example, consider this fictional debate:

A: I never lie.
B: You lied just yesterday!
A: Ad-hominem! Discuss the arguments, not the people!

Here, A is misapplying the ad-hominem label. B *is* allowed to bring up
the behaviour of A, specifically because it is A's behaviour which is under
debate.

I think part of the debate in this thread on comp.lang.java.programmer
has to do with your (Twisted/Nebulous') behaviour, so it isn't necessarily
ad-hominem to bring up your past behaviour and use it as evidence for an
extrapolation to present or future behaviour.

Of course, your behaviour (past, present or future), should not be used
as arguments in either direction as to whether it's better to hardcode
resources, or use the classloader's getResource() method, which is a
separate discussion altogether.

- Oliver
 
B

blmblm

I didn't say anything about *you* being hostile. What happened,
roughly, was this:

You said something about the sad state of this thread now, and implied
that it was somehow my fault.

I pointed out that I didn't throw the first punch.

This was misinterpreted as suggesting I didn't make the first post.

I differentiated between "the first post" and "the first punch".

End of story. I hope.

Pretty much (end of story, that is). In the discussion above, I was
talking about the thread in c.t.t. that I *thought* you had brought up.
I think you're talking about the current thread. There's no point in
continuing, since we're talking at cross purposes.
I didn't. I mentioned c.t.t but at no time did I mention (or invite
reference to) any specific thread therein.

Here's what you said, as part of the post that I originally replied to:

That sounded to me like a reference to a specific thread. If I was
mistaken, okay.
Somebody else mentioned a
specific thread. It is that that I considered to be stepping outside
the bounds.

That was probably me, but again, it sounded to me like you had already
made reference to a specific thread.

[ snip ]
How so? If you're suggesting that what I post outside c.j.l.p is
relevant here,

No. But this misunderstanding is my fault. What I'm disagreeing
with is your characterization of c.t.t. That wasn't clear from where
I put my reply with regard to quoted text.
then a hearty **** you! The only possible reason (as I
detailed elsewhere) to drag that kind of thing into any discussion is
for the purpose of twisting it in some way and then launching
ad-hominem attacks against your opponent in the debate, in lieu of such
mature and constructive things as either a) arguing the thing being
debated itself instead of who's an idiot and who is this that or the
other unpleasant comparison or b) leaving well enough alone.

If you're suggesting that newbies don't get bum advice there, then you
obviously haven't been following the group as well as you think you
were.

So apparently when I described my skimming of c.t.t. as "following
the group" it came across as meaning that I follow it closely, which
wasn't what I meant. I don't read every thread in the group by
any means. I guess I *do* assume that the ones I do read, or skim,
are a representative sample with regard to how helpful (or not) the
regulars are. But there's no way I can think of to be sure about
that without reading them all. If you read all of them, then your
observations carry more weight than mine.

[ snip ]
 
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Oliver Wong

Twisted said:
I've hoped against hope all this time that you'd realize that you're
stalemated and accept a drawn game, but it is now becoming apparent
that I might have to stoop to your level and counterattack or never see
the end of this, with day after day losing as much as an hour a day
simply to undoing the last 24 hours' damage to my name by you lot in
this one thread. If that's what it will take to end it, the gloves will
really come off and I will have at you with every weapon in my arsenal;
and if you will never let me come out of this smelling like roses (or
even neutral), then I'll ensure that we'll ALL come out of this
stinking like an open sewer! It's called "mutually assured destruction"
by the way; I've been told that it's an excellent deterrent. Perhaps
now this will be allowed to quietly die the death it deserves? But if
not ... I guess we'll see how long it takes to nuke one another into
submission.

I feel the need to warn you that I think this will be a losing strategy
for you. MAD only works if the mutual destruction is actually assured. I
think you'll be taking a big risk getting into a flame war here. In fact, I
think your destruction will be assured (in the form of mass plonking), while
others will not (they will not plonk each other, and thus be able to
continue their participation in this newsgroup unfettered).

[...]
Do I even have to make it explicit that if I ask how to do X, then the
scope of the discussion is "ways to do X" and any unsolicited advice or
questioning outside that scope is clearly a suggestion of incompetence,
or at least a sign of dubiousness, that would have been better kept
private rather than made public?

Probably yes. I would assume it's okay to provide unsolicited advice or
questioning outside the original question, unless the OP specifically states
they don't want this to occur.


[...]
Tell me what *you* think the motives behind such responses are?

I can only think of two. One is to simply attack me for the heck of it.

The other is genuine helpfulness, gone wrong due to a misguided
approach chosen. In that theory, the person genuinely wants my project
to succeed, and genuinely thinks a different approach would be better,
but unfortunately chooses to word their "help" as an attack on the
approach used rather than an endorsement of the approach they consider
superior.

Yeah, this is probably what happened. Though people (myself included)
would disagree about the "misguided" and "attack" labels.
And that, of course, challenges the original poster to defend
the approach used, and likely closes their mind to your suggestion.
You've doubly shot yourself in the foot if you do that: not only won't
your suggestion, which you believe genuinely constructive (and perhaps
correctly), be used, but you've also brought the original poster's own
competence publicly into question, if implicitly by making the
suggestion that their choice of approach might not be all it's cracked
up to be. And now they are put upon to defend not only their actions
but their intelligence and competence too, since this happened in front
of a goddam audience.

"Are you sure Z wouldn't be better?" is likewise problematic. It uses
the word "you", you'll note, and makes the person's decisions at issue
and not just the needs of the software being developed.

So how would you phrase it?

[...]
I get more hostile, mainly out of sheer frustration, when for
some moronic reason the idiot that rudely contradicted me doesn't
simply agree to disagree, or say "I'm sorry, in your particular
circumstances your method is perfectly acceptable", or do nothing, but
instead stubbornly persists in some sort of stupid quest to prove me
wrong, presumably to boost their own ego.

Pretend the above paragraph was written by someone else and read it
again in that context.
I also dislike the fact that someone can make me run their
stupid little treadmill like that or else face ridicule. It isn't
right; it means that anyone can at any time pop up and cause me to
either lose time or lose face with *no* way to avoid having at least
one of those things happen.

Right. It's a losing game. Time to change the rules of the game.
And anyone actually doing so is therefore
as much a jerk as if they walked up to me and shot me without
provocation, or stole my wallet, or something. It's a fucking crime, as
far as I'm concerned. Nobody should do that, and put me on the
defensive; if someone thinks I'm an idiot they should think it real
quiet like, especially if there's an audience around. If someone
disbelieves something I said, they can diplomatically say "I disagree"
or "This works too" or "This is an alternative"; nobody but their own
inflated ego compels them to argue against the man and use "you"
language and say things like "You're wrong".

Right. But people do stuff that they shouldn't do. And one needs to
learn to deal with it. That's life.

- Oliver
 

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